Shane doesn't care at all about baby stuff. Every time I try to get his opinion on anything he asks me why we need all this crap, tells me to stop wasting time looking at useless stuff, or asks me how much it is. I'm seriously wondering is all men, or just this one? I'm left feeling like he doesn't realize that this baby is a big deal and feeling like I'm in this alone. All he seems to care about is how much it's going to cost or griping that the baby doesn't care what his car seat or nursery is going to look like. He thinks I'm hung up on having all this stuff to project some sort of image or status to the world and he thinks I want to waste money. I am only trying to find the best and safest items for my little man, but is it wrong for me to want nice and cute things? I swear I was looking at a travel system this morning and asked his opinion on it, he just asked me if that was something we really needed, is he retarded? of course we need a car seat. The way he talks we should put the baby in a drawer with a flour sack towel and call it good. I realize that most men are not into details and this may just be a case of that, but it feels like something more. It feels like he doesn't care at all.
We have four months until the baby comes, that's it. "WE" haven't started a registry, I have b/c I was tired of waiting on him to care, so I started it myself. I'm not picking out the most expensive or nicest items, I'm picking the ones that make the most sense or seem to be the safest and highest quality. He keeps saying we need to come up with a budget for what we can afford for baby items and work from there, then he talks about wanting to research products online to find out what is best. I've been doing that for months, I would love for him to join me in this, but every time I ask for his input, he's disinterested. Is this an isolated occurrence or is this something all of us have to put up with? I know that people way a woman becomes a mother when she realizes she's pregnant and a man becomes a father when the baby comes, but I'm wondering if that's enough.
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Oh, Mimmsy. I so want things to be good for you...especially as you prepare to welcome your son into the world!
Please call me, because I want to talk to you, but not over a blog! Love you, my friend!
Heather captured my thoughts exactly. Give me a call when you get a chance, or let me know if/when you'd like to visit - your place, my place, somewhere in between - whatev. I love you very much, and I'm praying for you.
I would love to get together with both you ladies, maybe even at the same time. Let me know. I'm out of school in four weeks, most Saturdays between now and then are taken up too. Since you too have the kiddos right now, let me know when is a good time for you. Thank you friends, you are a blessing.
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